March 25th is our annual UNWED MOTHERS DAY!!!! You are NOT alone and nothing is impossible with God. People are ALWAYS ready to help! You have a friend named Mary who went through exactly what you are going through. The difference is she could have been stoned for getting pregnant by Someone Else; your troubles may seem great but FEAR (False Expectations Appearing Real) not. Help has arrived!!

There is NOOO reason to kill your kid. Raped? Ask Patti Smith. She shows you with a snapshot of time why.

Not sure it is your own body changing or really alive or different from your body? Ask Adriana. She beautifully and simply tells you what you need to hear.

Both ladies are vocal about answers.  Adriana is NOT shy about telling it straight, and Patti has a story that needs to be told

His Story wise (Historically), March 25th, near or at the spring equinox, is the day of two birth, and one death, announcements that involve Mary and her only born, Jesus and cousin John.

One of a married, older and barren woman and the other of an unwed but betrothed virgin, though it is rarely mentioned this way.

Luke 1:26 and following is so fascinating!!! And east and west Christian traditions put Jesus’ prebirth birthdate as the same as His death date. March 25 or April 6th.

Note Bene: Our physical birthdays are really SECONDARY in establishing life to the day of conception, as God and Gabriel proclaim. God said it; we need to believe it.  We are nine months old when we are born and have a great life to look forward to!

Mary, an unwed mom was told by God’s messenger, Gabriel, she was soon to be the mother of the Son of the Most High God. Not your everyday greeting after a cup of Starbucks or cereal in the morn…even if it is a latte supremo le grande magna supremissimo.

Mary, in her direct way, asked Gabriel: “How can I have a kid; i haven’t had sex with Joseph?” (paraphrased, of course). She was honest; she behaved herself during her engagement, like all of us should though we fail on occasion in our culture;  and Joseph, the consummate chivalrous gentleman did as well.

Gabriel tells her the “Holy Spirit will come upon you and the power of the Most High will overshadow you” Wow!

Then Gabriel tells her about another miracle, that her barren cousin Elizabeth was six months along!   “Nothing is impossible with God”!  We MUST believe this, that God is the Possible; and there is always room for forgiveness (FORGIVEbFOREGIVEN) and reconciliation and life.  The Eucharist is available like a good confessor EVERY day.  Don’t miss out…

Mary, the servant, said: “I am His handmaiden; whatever He wants, let it be done!” She knew it would not be easy, but she was willing. And she would always be a virgin, never know the intimacy of her future husband, Joseph.  Out of choice, not as slave.  What sacrifice; but for the greater good of being the Mother of God.  I know, you are thinking:  God is a hard act to follow, but Mary and Joseph were satisfied.

For the rest of us not in the consecrated life, marriage is an incredible life.  Donna trained me well on how to be a good husband before she went heavenward too early over 30 months ago.  Someday i hope God graces me with another incredible and beautiful lady, but that is His call.  And her call, as well.

I hate hate this about how sex has been cheapened, by our culture, and turned into a playground toy “sex play” by planned parenthood and robbed of its excitement, joy, fun and intimacy, reserved for a one man-one woman-one God marriage, where it is sooooooo incredible. And, here comes my politically incorrect but very loving comment: man with man sex and woman with woman sex is not sex, it is mutual pleasuring without any hope of true intimacy and gratification. Mirrored physical “selfies” is not how we were designed. Mary knew this, Joseph accepted this.  We Catholics accept and love those who are attracted same sex, but draw the line at ANY extra-marital sex as being a good thing(one man, one woman, one God): whether adult or teen, tall or short, etc.

There is a way: you gotta get married to find out just how awesome it is. But, don’t settle for second best, Ladies, because you control the conditions of unconditional love. Not us guys.  You have the key to his–and your–happiness.  Keep the key safely hidden.  There will be plenty of time to use the key; remember, God is timeless and true love is the same.

Settle for only whom God has for you. Ladies and guys, you don’t need to test the plumbing, or live together to see if you are compatible.

Shhh. Come closer, listen to a little secret: you were designed to have great sex, but not before the wedding vows. You will see some day, I promise. Don’t blow your chance for the best relationship a man and woman can ever have.  Yes, secondary virginity is real but it has challenges those who remain chaste don’t.

For example, coming to the Beckman “ranch”,  i have two couples (that’s four for the math challenged), all virgins btw, for a night of reflection.   They hail from my days as director at Holy Family Cathedral; they are great young people and in the 180 day window before vows is here for both weddings: in fact, maids/matron of honor at each other’s wedding.

A great night of good, will happen.  They have an amazing wedding night coming; but more important, a great wedding life before them.  Prayers for Katie and Derek, Jessica and Michael.  Pray that God will use me and those sharing that evening.  Being prolife is a POSITIVE and great thing.  We don’t need to let those that kill children ruin it for the rest of us.

My vision is simple: every woman should receive a rose or flower every day for the rest of their lives.  Guys, help me out here.  I can’t do it alone.

But, in marriage, men, MEN, got your attention, my future wife will receive breakfast in bed every day. YES!!

Every day, except Feb 29th in non-leap years. Every day. She will be massively loved, and cared for, she will be intensely happy. When she is pregnant, you double the flower power. My future wife will get two a day. When she has a child, she will be pampered even more. That will be easy, with so many doting aunts and uncles on both sides. But, she will know that she no longer is just a princess of the King of Kings: she is my queen and will receive appropriate treatment any of Mary’s daughters on earth deserve.  Men, get with the program.

Thanks to Donna, i have learned how to love a woman, really love her. And YES!  I know she is praying for my future spouse; weird? No, God’s plan. That mystical thing that happened for Lauren, one of my leaders, eight days after she passed over, pointed me to this fact.

Until “death do us part” even for those He takes home young, like Donna.  And still, I am sooo clueless about the most complex created beings in the known universe: womanhood. But, the good news is: so are all guys.

We covenant Catholic men MUST just try to be the best at making her know and feel that she is the most important woman of the womanhood universe.

Joseph did the same for Mary, even though he was the foster spouse of the Godhead and the foster dad of our Saviour. Not a bad role, yes!

Men, learn chivalry. It is rising again.   Come to the upcoming “Man2Man: modern knighthood and chivalry arise”.  It will have a serious hike, sharing, good food, and surprises.  You gotta be a guy (ask your mom or girlfriend if not sure). Watch this blog for details.  Ladies, don’t worry, you aren’t left out.  Something special is in the works for you too.  No boyz allowed for it.

Adriana, a beautiful, full of life and talented prolife activist, does this great “facts of life” thing on a 40DFL video i have up on the ‘tube. She shows the realities that 12 years of med school doesn’t seem to help inside kid kill mills.

Or people inside grocery stores: pregnant moms need to be held special, revered for they are the organic cradles of the universe. ALL of us need to respect this time, And the mother of two, three, eleven are not baby machines; they are showing just how much they love life AND God’s commandment to multiply.  HELP THEM when they are jockeying a basket and babes, don’t look down your noses at them.  YES, agreed there is a population problem: 100 countries are one generation from extinction because their birth rates are below replacement, even sustaining levels.  China has 35 million extra guys.  India kills off 60% of its third kids if they are girls.  Blacks and Hispanic/Latinas are bullseye for the illuminated planned parenthoodlums. In fact, more blacks are aborted than birthed in New York City.   So, help a mom.  You were a kid once and may someday be a mom.

Adriana emphatically tells us: “The body of the child is not the body of the mother”  Yet they are intricately involved. This is another reason abortion is soooo evil. Look at Adriana’s graphic below. Hello, PP and world: there are TWO beings. Not just one.  Puppies are dogs; kittens are cats; but fetuses are dead matter that comes to life hitting mom’s birth canal and daylight?  Talk about primitive, ignorant, evil science.  I wonder if these abortogods EVER went to med school.

Actually, there are THREE beautiful women in the pictures above, assuming the ‘Este NO!’ is female.

But, people, LIFE IS WHAT happens while we are making plans.  Let life envelop you, love it.  It doesn’t matter what language you grew up with or use.  The language of love is the ONLY one with dialects in EVERY known spoken tongue throughout the world.

You are not just losing a teeny kid.  Think about the geometrics we lose with every killed pre-daylight kid: there are hundreds maybe thousands who will not be born in his/her line through the end of time or Jesus’ return, whichever comes first, because of this stupid waste of human life.  And, it is more…

Mary’s physical characteristics were reflected in the Son of God, just as the divine characteristics, and His Image, is reflected from the Godhead. Wow! Just how amazing is that!!   This is the same for mothers and child; it is more than a body connect, their hearts become entwined, though the bodies develop SEPARATELY.  It is more than just tissue; it is an irretreivable, irreplaceable human.

In a song i wrote, called “Kelli’s Song: She still has her mother’s heart” the chorus tells the story of the human meeting the divine:

“It takes three to marry (a Catholic wedding), and two to love (marital love) as two become as one. This mystery for ages past is measured through the Son (all history is His Story). The Father’s Love the Spirit’s joy to Mary did impart (the Incarnation).
The Son sees the world through the Father’s eyes, but has His mother’s heart.”   Chew on that, readers.

This last is sooo important. Jesus saw and lived His life through His heavenly Father’s eyes, especially the last three years.

He knew, as March 25 (or April 6th in the Eastern church) is celebrated, He was born to die. We celebrate His real birth, the day He was conceived, on the same day we honor His death. In the Hebrew calendar, it was Friday the 13th day of Nisan leading into the 14th and His resurrection on the 15th; why do we celebrate Mary’s assumption on the 15th? Hmm.  Is this why Friday the 13th is unlucky?  Unlucky for whom?  The demons?  Because of Friday the 13th, which is March 25 on our calendar, we will live FOREVER happily if we follow Christ.  Help each other, lead each other to Christ.

But, Jesus had/has His unwed mother’s heart; He saw and still sees the world with her boundless human compassion; she focuses us, as Queen of Heaven, on her Son, even taking time to visit us and refocus us, like at Fatima, Lourdes, Guadalupe, Good Success in Quito, Ecuador, etc.

Wouldn’t you like to have Mary’s frequent flyer miles?

Mary’s 12/12/1531 visit to Guadalupe even impacts March 25, as i will post later when i do a special look at Guadalupe’s impact. As patroness of the Americas, this is my favorite incarnation of Mary at Tepeyac, Tenoctitlan, Mexico City.  It transcends the universe, astronomy, life, love and is more relevant to today than on Dec 12, 1531.  Watch for it!   And look out, Fatima, is still in play!!

Mary wants what is best for us; she wants what’s best for the violated, at-risk mothers who darken the store fronts of evil empire’s worst, planned parenthood. She wants us to be happy forever; just as she thought as a 15 year old girl being told she would be the Mother of God!”

Thank you Jesus for loving us. Thank you Mary for saying Yes!! Adriana’s graphic shows what happens every time a woman says Yes! to becoming two beings occupying the same space. Let us help those mothers when men and circumstances try to kill a part of her soul while ending the life of someone who is receiving food, warmth and rental space for nine months.    Mom gave you nine months of rental space; can’t we do the same for every other baby, too?  AND help every mom with the resources to live.

It IS a great day to be alive AND carpe diem magna cum gaudiam.  This last is not swearing in Latin; it means, “Seize the Day with much praise!”   I’d drag out my guitar and sing praise and worship, but you have work to do.  Youth/young adult leaders, like Adriana, Amanda, AngelRangel, Armando, Brian, Matt, Natalie, Kelli, Ruwanka et al, know i am praying for you and exhorting you to greatness.  Your role is pivotal in TODAY’S Church, not 2Moro’s.  I Tim 4:12 is real and you are sooooo needed.  Bishop Kevin, your pastors and people know this, and they too are praying for you.

My friend, Tony Melendez, who made it to the OC on a recent Friday night, sings about “Never Be the Same”.  I had the privilege of travelling with him and Steve Angrisano three times, and subbing in as the music minister/guitar leader at Masses with Bishop Soto at side chapels in the Assisi basilica and St. Peter’s in Rome.  What a privilege and honor.  Yet, the work continues; your work is important.

At Youtube/user/Lenbeckman, Lynn his wife shares of #24 Anniversary.  There are the videos for Adriana’s group at SVDP, Patti Smith, 11 yr old Dr. Isaac; Carolina, a Conf II from OLPilar; mom Sarah shares about youth ministry. 90 years young Rita at 40DFL serving coffee.  If a 90 years young can walk the sidewalk and is off the sidelines, hmm…

… About coming through the valley:  Your struggles make you stronger.  I lost my wife and six months later, due to corporate Catholic downsizing in the shadow of purchasing 10,000 panes, my beloved role at HFC.  But always remember, when a window closes, God opens a garage door.  At least 16 feet wide.  God will bless you more than you could ever imagine.

Remember, 8 is the number of resurrection, renewal, rejuvenation.  It is also the eighth Beatitude Attitude.  Persecution for Christ’s sake must be JOY for us, for it means good is happening.  And all, the best way to stay Catholic is to see that Oswiecim County (which becomes Auschwitz) has no place in modern America or the world.

Hobby Lobby is being persecuted because it doesn’t believe unwed mothers and wedded ones should kill their kids, nor their employees either.  Appropriate that on the same day Mary said YES! the Supreme Court heard the arguments for religious freedom, the one that Mary started: religious freedom for a good FOREVER!

In HIS service and yours,

Len Beckman

Is this awesome or what!  And Adriana, thank you for your faithfulness with your Hispanics4lifers.  God sees your pure heart and will reward you richly.  Never settle for second best.

Jesus’ born to die citations below: :
Around 200 C.E. Tertullian of Carthage reported the calculation that the 14th of Nisan (the day of the crucifixion according to the Gospel of John) in the year Jesus diedc was equivalent to March 25 in the Roman (solar) calendar.9 March 25 is, of course, nine months before December 25; it was later recognized as the Feast of the Annunciation—the commemoration of Jesus’ conception.10 Thus, Jesus was believed to have been conceived and crucified on the same day of the year. Exactly nine months later, Jesus was born, on December 25.d

From an anonymous Christian treatise titled On Solstices and Equinoxes, which appears to come from fourth-century North Africa. The treatise states: “Therefore our Lord was conceived on the eighth of the kalends of April in the month of March [March 25], which is the day of the passion of the Lord and of his conception. For on that day he was conceived on the same he suffered.”11 Based on this, the treatise dates Jesus’ birth to the winter solstice.

From Augustine, who also was familiar with this association. In “On the Trinity” (c. 399–419) he writes: “For he [Jesus] is believed to have been conceived on the 25th of March, upon which day also he suffered; so the womb of the Virgin, in which he was conceived, where no one of mortals was begotten, corresponds to the new grave in which he was buried, wherein was never man laid, neither before him nor since. But he was born, according to tradition, upon December the 25th.

Merry Christmas all, nine months early. Know that you are loved!  AND thank you daughter Rosie for the photoart below; NET will have a great young lady with them this August.